Deciding to see is one of the most difficult things we can do. Going beyond our daily distractions and inability to commit long periods of time to focus, deciding to see is an intentional act that we have a hard time accepting in our lives.
When someone decides to see, they are willing to admit that they don’t know and that they are not sure where they are, what the situation really calls for, or that their prior thinking has been flawed and are not sure why.
Deciding to see is the enemy of our ego. Arrogant and certain, our ego stops us from seeing, listening and adjusting to where we are and what we are told. Deciding to see is an intentional step that tells the ego to go away and hide so that you have the freedom to explore, change and grow.
Details can provide so many clues to our next step but sadly we rush past them. We don’t slow down enough to pay attention. Deciding to see helps us put the brakes on our lives to pay attention, to accept hard truths, and to give us the space to find the courage to change paths.
Deciding to see, rather than react and defend, is a major step towards personal and organizational change. We always play a larger role in the fate of our lives that we think. Our contributions to the content and outcomes of our lives are rarely thought of as we rush through our day.
Deciding to see requires you to be more like Sherlock Holmes than scanning multiple websites on your phone in minutes. There is an element of depth that is critical and necessary when deciding to see. It is trying to make sense of all of the feedback and details and then trying to explore and connect those that either don’t or didn’t fit what we believed in the past.
Deciding to see could very well at first lead to confusion. But as we walk through a strange forest looking for a path, searching for a detail or details that will change our perspective or point of view, will always lead to the other side of the forest and back into safer and broader new lands.
Everyone talks about the need to change and grow. Very few accept the challenge of first deciding to see. It isn’t easy. Not much in life that is of value is. It takes work, consistency, repetition and time.