Complaining never changes anything. Why do we complain?
I don’t like this or that or I don’t like that person many utter. Why do we say that?
We look fidgety, uncomfortable, and disturbingly quiet. What makes us this way?
We are generous, forgiving, take time to listen or help. What pushes us to do this?
We brag and boast through our Facebook posts. What makes us do this?
In all of these situations, there are outward manifestations of what is bottled up inside of us. What is deep in our hearts that must be released so that they don’t break.
Our hearts are shy and more resilient than we think. But they have a limited tolerance for keeping things within them. They are most strong and effective when they are not full.
Both complaining and generosity share in the fact that they come from our hearts being full of either negative or positive thoughts. If we truly believe in helping others, our hearts unload so that they are not as full by having us be more generous. If we truly don’t like this or that, our hearts again unload by having us complain uncontrollably.
You see life is pretty simple. We need some space to be most effective. Our heart accomplishes this without us even knowing because it can serve us best when it is not full of our anxieties, dislikes, or even our worldviews that push us to help and serve others.
When our hearts are not as full we can find space, peace and rest. What is not easy nor simple is to understand that letting the negative things go can be just as effective and less public to others if only we had the courage to try.