The internet defines a role as ” the function assumed or part played by a person or thing in a particular situation”. I find it difficult for us to assess and infer what role is needed when.
Recently, I heard someone describe a leadership position as filling a role of status and power when that position is all about service. Another person jumped on the role of task master when the situation called for the softer skill of group development. The most prominent confusion of roles occurs within the tug of war of parent as friend of child vs. parent as disciplinarian.
How do we view others’ roles in our lives? Is the person that we see at the bar every week truly a good friend? Would they be there in our darkest moment? Will the person that I consider my good friend understand, that seeing what I am going through demands their role change to that of truth teller? Even though this may hurt me?
Understand the fluidity of roles within the context of a specific situation is key to harnessing the power of emotional intelligence. Of being able to connect with those around you at a much deeper level. For the fluidity better mirrors the ebb and flow in our daily lives.
We are not meant to be rigid for life itself is never rigid.
Titles or positions within an organizational hierarchy, are poor indicators of one’s effectiveness. The effectiveness of any person lies (in part) in their ability to grasp the needs of a situation and then build their role to meet the need. Sometimes, this may be only for an instant. Other times, it may take days, weeks, months, or even years.
Adaptability is viewed as a cornerstone of evolution. Correctly assessing the role needed in a particular situation, is the key that will unlock much greater success and accomplishment in your daily life. Especially as things continue to change around you.