There are always projects at work or home. This needs to be fixed. That needs to be changed. A lot of pre-work goes into analysis, meetings, and building consensus. Whether it’s your spouse, significant other, or the people you work with.
Lots of overtime, unplanned obstacles, and much frustration. Nothing never ends up being as simple as we first thought.
All of the stuff that makes up this work, the project itself and the inordinate amount of effort needed to complete anything is easy when you think about what our most difficult work really is.
Our most difficult work involves focusing on ourselves. When we need to see ourselves more clearly but can’t. What we realize we need to change something within ourselves and then try to do it. Or when we want to learn more about ourselves to grow and evolve into something better than the person we are today. Or when things around us aren’t getting us to where we want to go and we are lost as a person.
Exploring who we are and who we are not takes a lot of hard work. To listen and observe how we react to situations and then begin to understand how our tendencies get us in trouble. Or when we are lost, to find the first small thing to change and work on. Or when we dream of getting to place “y”, to be able to assess what we don’t know and begin finding ways to learn new things.
Seeing ourselves is so difficult. [Seeing ourselves in a mirror and finding the ugliness that hides behind our ego’s self-serving joy.] It’s easy to say “they should do this” or that “we (in a company) should do that”. We are quick to fill in the blanks to solve another person’s problems. We run away from, beyond our ability, to do the same within our own lives.
Accepting that to look inside of ourselves (and to then work to change and grow) is the most difficult work you can do is the first step to a more fulfilled life.
Our life will have less regrets when we understand that everything we experience (both good and bad) begins with who we are and who we are not. Then all you need is the interest, wisdom and patience to know, that we first must change, for new and different outcomes around us to be revealed.