A person I respect, gave me some feedback on my last post “Being Responsibly Direct”. He said that he had a hard time doing this because he was afraid of hurting someone’s feelings. Honestly, I had not considered this possibility. It’s noble not to want to hurt any feelings. No one does. My suggestion around being responsibly direct is more valid either in an...
Nothing destroys a relationship between two people, or in any situation that involves others, is the feeling we get from requests that we interpret as meaning “I want what I want”. The underlying translation of requests made in this form is always felt as a declaration. The selfishness of this underlying tone feels frightening and strange. Its direct effect on others is to simply...
A trap that all of us fall into, many times, is what we do with our explanation of “who they are”. That moment in time where we define what we see in other people. It’s essentially our definition of them. In and of itself, there is no harm in this. Where we get ourselves in trouble is with the creation of a second column on this list that is titled “who we want them to...