We are romantic in what we dream about. Of what we will accomplish. Of what changes need to be made. Our energy goes up, our stories become bigger, and we enjoy when others compliment us on where we are headed. The end is in sight before the work ever begins.
The problem is that the steps needed to see a change in our lives are very hidden from others and never accomplish a lot by themselves. Change requires the repetition of little steps over a long period of time. It is a lonely process when personal change is involved.
What’s both boring & challenging about this work of change is that we have to keep coming back to do the same thing over and over in order to show progress. It’s the same for personal goals of weight loss as it is for expanding our number of followers on the internet by putting out content and tweets every day until someone notices.
Our aspirations to change are in direct conflict with the steps needed to bring about change. Romance is the mistress of our aspirations while the boring steps needed to bring about change are as exciting as having to do your laundry.
That is why change is so difficult. The work is truly boring because it needs to be repetitive in order for it to take hold. Given our short attention span, we usually miss the mark because we are never patient enough to persevere when all we see and feel is the same as when we do our laundry.